I love looking put together for my own confidence, but sometimes I get some snarky comments about “making us look bad” or “being super dressed up.” Here’s how I respond.
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I like to get ready almost every single day. It helps my confidence, my productivity, and my entire day.
If you’re the same way, I’m sure you’ve received a comment or two over the years about being “so dressed up” or “making others look bad” or some other snarky comment about being dressed.
Here are a few ways to respond to these kinds of comments!
How to respond to snarky comments about getting dressed
First off, if someone says a negative or backhanded comment about your outfit or being dressed up and put together, it may be coming from a place of feeling insecure about themselves, and not being equally dressed up. So my highest priority is to be kind in response and not fall into the snarky trap.
Here are some examples of these backhanded comments:
- “Wow, you sure are dressed up.”
- “I wish I had the time to get dressed up like that.”
- “You’re making us look bad.”
If you feel like the comments are coming from a place of insecurity, make sure you respond in a kind way, and leave out any snarky tones. No need to dish it back.
Here are my two go-to response that are simple, easy, and give them a clear answer without over-explaining or making them feel bad.
- “It just makes me feel better when I get ready for the day and dress up a little!”
- or more simply, “I just love dressing up!”
These statements are unapologetic, but also don’t point fingers back at them for their snarkiness or their outfit choice.
Don’t apologize for being dressed up, or taking the time, or prioritizing your time differently than others. And definitely don’t start dressing differently because people make comments, if you truly love getting dressed everyday. Dress how you want to feel and own it!
If you are insecure about being dressed up more than your friends, tell them what you’re going to wear to go out when you’re deciding where to go, and see if they level up with you! Sometimes they don’t dress up because they just don’t know what to wear. You could say, for example, “Let’s go to XYZ for dinner tomorrow. I’m wearing jeans and a nice blouse!” This can start an easy conversation that will help those who are nervous about what to wear.
I’d love to know what you do to respond to these kinds of comments! And next time you get a comment like this, try one of these simple responses.
I tell PEOPLE that dressIng well is Good manners and shows respect for OTHER people. 🙂
I tell people that “It makes me feel good wheN I Look presentable.”
What of ots not your girlfriends, but Rather your husband that mskes comments about being too dressed up because he only has one level of dress (nice but casual)?
What if its not your gIrlfrIends, but rather your husband that makes comments about your level of dress?
My Friends usually ASK WHERE I got my clothes. My daughters usually ask if they can borrow it. I think FRIENDS whO make slight REMARKS are InsecurE. Just wear what you enjoY! Its really not your problem! They will prObably ask you to go shopping with them next time!
This reminds me of backhand comments I received during my teen years and 20s. “Wow, you sure are skinny. You have the skinniest legs,” etc. I knew I was being insulted but never knew how to respond. Being told I’m dressed up for an occasion nowadays is easy to deal with in comparison. I love your response that you just love dressing up. It’s simple, effective, and nice.
Hi merrick! What an interesting post and conversation piece. I personally haven’t experienced such comments as I tend to dress more casually but good to know what to say for future me.
My responses back are very similar to the ones you have listed here. I choose not to be snarky back because it serves no purpose.
I will sometimes get comments about my hair too – “Oh, your hair always looks so nice!” I usually respond with, “Thanks, I washed it today!” lol 😉 They usually look surprised that I admitted that and laugh with me.
This essay is excellent. One of the best entries I’ve ever read, in my opinion. I was aware of the insult, but I never knew how to react. Nowadays, it’s simple to deal with being told I’m dressed for a special occasion. Your remark that you simply enjoy dressing up is fantastic.
I work in an OPerating room and often get comments about how I’m dressed up, when I walk into the locker room. I love STYLING Clothes and feel more coNfident starting my day “put together,” even if I’m onLy dressed that way for a Short while BEFORE CHANGING into scrubs. I usually say something Like: i lOve to buy clothes aNd it makes me feel less guIlty about my addiction when I actually wear them. I like your responses Better. I ShouLdn’t feel apologetic.
Anytime someone tries to talk down to you, whether it’s someone who looks down on women in general or someone who just doesn’t understand how hard it is for us to be taken seriously as women, Also I am receiving my MyMedicalPayments easily through their platform. it’s important that we respond with grace and respect. We don’t want them to think that they can get away with talking like that and making us feel small and insignificant because of our appearance.
Thank you for sharing this! I struggle a lot with anxiety and depression, and one of the things that lifts my mood is feeling well-dressed and put together when I leave the house. I’ve received a lot of snarky comments from coworkers and I wish they understood that we’re all doing what we can to get by. I don’t understand why people feel the need to tear others down to lift themselves up. Thank you for suggestions on handling this situation with grace!
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