4 Goals I’ve Made for the New Year

Setting new year’s resolutions is my favorite thing to do in January! This year I’m doing it a little differently, and these are four of my goals for 2019 to help me become a better person.

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Happy New Year!!

One of my very favorite parts of a new year is making goals and resolutions. I’ve done it every year for as long as I can remember.

Typically I sit down during the first week of January and brainstorm all the things I want “to do” this coming year. But this year I’ve felt a pull to do things a little bit differently.

I’ve spent the last month reflecting on my year and the kind of person I was. What things could I work on this year to improve myself as a wife, mother, friend, and person?

It’s more of a personal shift than setting specific goals. This year that just feels right.

Three specific things have kept coming to mind, and then I’m adding one more that’s more of an actual goal rather than a personal shift.


setting goals for the new year are my favorite thing to do
this big gorgeous calendar makes it fun to plan out my week!
planning my week, month, and year with my calendar and planner

Four of my new year’s resolutions for 2019

1. Speak softly.

I come from a pretty loud family. We talk over each other a lot, and don’t even get one of us to tell a story because it’s basically a shouting monologue. We’re just loud by nature. I’ve found myself speaking loudly to my children frequently this year, trying to talk over their noise and get their attention, and honestly it just makes them louder. I don’t want a loud, shouting home.

So I’m making a very big effort to lower my voice and speak softly and gently to them. I’ve been trying this for a couple of weeks and it’s amazing what a difference it’s made! Before, when I spoke loudly to get their attention, they would easily just tune it out. But when I speak in a direct, but gentle and soft way, they hear it. I swear it’s like magic.

Their volume levels haven’t particularly gone down, but I’m finding myself less frustrated at the noise, and I’m hopeful that a whole year of this will change the feeling in our home to more calm and kind rather than just a bunch of people shouting over each other.


2. Stop being late to everything.

This is my mentality when it comes to time: if it takes 15 minutes to get somewhere, I leave 15 minutes before I need to be there. And I get ready to leave maybe 2 minutes before that. So basically I’m always late, OR I’m always in a rush.

Neither are ideal.

So this year I’m working hard to shift my time mentality and start getting ready to go earlier, and then leave at least 5 minutes earlier than I would have in the past.


3. Be a good listener.

I’ve mentioned this before, but Philip is an excellent listener. I ramble on about work things for hours and he always acts interested and remembers every detail. I am….exactly the opposite.

So this year I’m going to work really hard on being a better listener. Not just to Philip, but also to the boys. I have to admit that it’s so hard for me to listen to B or Fos talk endlessly about LEGOs or Star Wars, but if it’s important to them I want to show them that it’s important to me because they are important to me.


4. Run a half marathon.

This is my goal that’s not personality related. But I’m SO excited about this goal! I ran four miles the other day and thought, “how in the world am I going to do this time three?!” Honestly, I don’t know. But I’m excited to push myself this year and accomplish this big goal!!

I’m still waiting on specific calendar details before sharing details about the run I’m doing, but it’s going to be somewhere amazing this summer and I’d love to have a bunch of you join me. I’ll be sharing details as soon as I can!


I’d love to know — do you set goals every year? And what are some of your goals for 2019?


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  1. Meagan says:

    I love all of these, particularly the “sPeak softly” one. I had a friend tell me she had a sign that said “unless the house is on fire, there is no yelling,” and I think about that a lot. I work on going to find my kids versus yelling at them from across the house. I also am working on speaking more kindly to them. As for the 1/2 marathon, I ran my first last month after two months of training and YOU CAN run the whole thing! I just added a mile each week and pushed through, it is amazing what we can do when we put our mind to it. I wrote a post about my training schedule and experience if you’d like to look. http://meaganrigney.com/2018/12/12/how-i-trained-for-and-ran-my-first-half-marathon/

  2. Lu says:

    I love your goals! I come from a loud family as well, so i love that first goal. I think i’ll fit thaT one in with my others.

  3. Heather says:

    I love the shifts as gOals. This year I decided on two words to live By. Intention and Courage. My goal this year is to live IntenTionally and do so with the courage to not worry or analize what other people may think. Honestly a lot of it came from Readig Girl Wash Your face and I found Rachel Hollis because of you. Thank you so much for leading me in that direction.

  4. Simone says:

    One of my goals is to be a better listener too! I find that I intentionally ask questions, but I don’t listen for the response. Not even because I’m thinking of something I want to tell them, but usually because I’m formulating another question for them (It’s like I have the one part down of not excessively talking about me, but still don’t listen!). I just did this yesterday with someone I ran into and after the conversation thought: What did they tell me?!

  5. Kinsey says:

    I relate to the speak softly One! A couple of Years ago I made the shift to being on time or even eArly instead of always late. I had tHree kids then and i hatEd beinG the frazzled hurried moM! I am still late once in awhile but it feels so MUch betteR to be to chUrch, APPOINTMENTS, school picKup etc on time!

  6. Mary says:

    Nice New Year’s Resolutions. I hope you Will achieve all these. I Wish to Stop Being LATE to EVERYTHING TOO 🙂 but I have some medical Condition WHICH MAKES ME A NIGHT OWL. I HOPE I CAN BE ON TIME EVERYWHERE ESPECIALLY IN THE MORNINGS. ANYWAY, NICE TO SEE YOUR BLOG.

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