I have some big news – we’re moving to St. Louis! Here are all the details and our moving plans.
We’re sharing a big family update!
Whoa! We have some big, exciting news to share today. We’re moving to St. Louis, Missouri this sunmer!
MY OUTFIT DETAILS ABOVE:
A little backstory
The company Philip works for is headquartered in St. Louis, Missouri. We have known since day one of him starting this job (back in January 2007) that if he stayed with the company longterm, we would eventually end up in St. Louis. This has always been floating in the back of our heads, and has come up many times over the years.
Philip has had many job promotions within the company since 2007 that have moved him around, sometimes requiring a move, sometimes to a new office or working with a new group within the geographical area. We began in Salt Lake City in 2007, then his job moved us to Southern California in 2012. In 2019, we moved again to Dallas, and honestly we hoped that this would be our final stop, since we have loved it so much.
In 2020, Philip got his most recent promotion that kept us in Dallas but put him over a team in St. Louis, as well as Dallas. So he travels to St. Louis monthly to meet with his team and has become very familiar with the area.
Our longterm home plans…that didn’t work out
About nine months ago, a lot went up for sale on the other side of our town. It was a large property that needed to be developed and subdivided, but we sort of seriously talked about possibly buying it, selling parts of it, and then building a home on it. It came up a handful of times over a few weeks, and finally we mentioned it to the kids. They were surprisingly adamant about NOT buying this property, especially considering that this wouldn’t require any change to our schools or friends or church or anything…it would be about 4 miles from our current house, and still in the same town. They said, we love our house, we love our street and our neighbors, and we do NOT want to move.
So Philip and I completely dropped it and started having conversations about staying in our current home longterm. We decided that the boys were getting older and we wouldn’t want to uproot them as they entered high school, so I guess we were here for the long haul.
About 2 weeks later, we started looking for a contractor to build out our backyard, put in a pool, and turn this house into a longterm situation.
….best laid plans.
Fast forward to January 2023
In January of this year, when we were knee deep in pool design and HOA approval and sending in deposits, Philip walked into the kitchen one evening, sat down at the kitchen island while I was prepping dinner, and said, “want to move to St. Louis?”
….excuse me, what?
He proceeded to tell me about some movement happening at corporate that would open up a Vice President position, and he was pretty confident he would be eligible to apply.
Of course at this point nothing was happening, but the wheels were beginning to be set in motion.
As Philip put out some feelers at work, it was pretty evident that this was coming down the pipeline, and my biggest stress was the unknown. I had been to St. Louis twice as a teenager, very briefly, just going up the arch as far as I can remember. That’s about all I knew about the city. So Philip and I tried to figure out how I could get out there and check it out, just so I’d be prepared to make a clear decision if this job was offered to him.
My parents were coming to visit a week later, and miraculously they were planning to stay for five days. I called my mom, explained the situation, and asked if they could extend their trip by a day and stay with the kids for 3 days of their trip because we needed to go check out St. Louis. Of course they obliged.
So on Saturday afternoon, we dropped the kids and my parents off at Fos’ football game, then jetted off to St. Louis for a weekend of neighborhood hunting, church scouting, and exploring. As soon as we landed and began driving around, I felt so peaceful about being there. Geographically, it felt a lot like Texas, so the familiarity of it felt comforting. And everywhere we went people were so kind and only had amazing things to say about living in that area.
We have some friends from California who live there now, so I reached out to her to ask about the area. She was incredibly helpful, telling us all about the various areas, and we ended up attending her church congregation, met a few of her very inviting friends, and she connected us with several other people who were so, so kind. We ended up attending three different church congregations on Sunday just to look at the different areas, and instagram followers came up to me in all three congregations, so friendly and excited to say hi, and it just made me feel like I could find friends and people in this place. It was a little tender mercy for me from God, helping me feel peaceful about this potential move.
When it came down to the interview
It took another two months for the company to shift things around and for this position to open, but finally it did. We spent those two months waffling about this decision. Was it right to uproot the kids? Would it be a good thing for our family? Did the benefits of the new job position outweigh all the cons of moving and raising our family somewhere else? We went in circles on a daily basis.
Meanwhile, we didn’t breathe a word to the kids or anyone else.
Philip spent weeks putting together his application for the job interview, but even on the last day of the job opening window, we were unsure about whether this was right or not. I had prayed and prayed and just couldn’t feel settled on it. I didn’t feel like it was the wrong thing, but I just wasn’t sure it was the right thing.
On the last day of the application window, Philip came into our office and said, “should I do this??” We went back through the pros and cons, and I felt like he was leaning toward NOT applying. So I said, “Don’t apply. We’re happy here, let’s just stay here!” His response was immediate…”wellllll….maybe I do want to go for it.” So I said, “Just do it. If you don’t apply, you’ll regret it. If you don’t get it, we’re so happy here, there’s nothing to lose! So just go for it.” And I could tell that was just the push he needed. He said, “I better do it before I lose my nerve!”
And so he put in his application.
One of the big pros for us at this point was that the kids are still young. Our oldest is in 7th grade currently, so he still has another year before high school. If we didn’t take this opportunity, Philip felt like other great opportunities within the company would open up in the coming years, and at that point with the kids being several years older, it would be much harder to move.
So it felt a little bit like “now or never.”
Another big pro was that Philip had been feeling a little stagnant the last few months. He’d expressed feelings of frustration to me over and over again, feeling like he needed a change, but he didn’t know what. I told him it was because we hadn’t gone on a vacation for a few months. But as soon as this opportunity arose and he saw the potential for a new challenge in his work life, it was evident that this new opportunity was just the change he didn’t know he was looking for.
We also knew that St. Louis could be our final destination, and that he could continue to promote within the company there, but be able to remain at the corporate offices, allowing us to raise our boys in one place. That felt like a huge benefit.
After a phone interview the next morning and then a trip out to St. Louis the following week to have four in-person interviews, they told him he got the job.
As soon as he told me, I just felt an overwhelming feeling of peace. We did the right thing, and it was all going to work out.
How the kids handled the news
The following week was spring break for us, so we decided we’d tell the kids during our spring break trip. It seemed like dropping this news bomb on them would be a little easier on a fun vacation filled with family time. Lots of time to process and talk through it with no distractions.
We went to Broken Bow, Oklahoma for spring break and rented a beautiful cabin up there, and it was magical. But this news was looming over our heads for the entire first day. On day two, it was pouring rain, so we stayed inside and watched movies, played games, and made yummy food. It seemed like the right time to tell.
We gathered the boys onto the pull out couch, snuggled up, and told them the news. There were immediate tears from our oldest, followed by him saying, “I knew it…I just knew it.” This statement was a total shock to us, and we asked him how he knew. He said he had overheard little things here and there, noticed Philip going to St. Louis a lot more lately, and just put two and two together. I told him that I was sure that was Heavenly Father preparing him for this big news. (more on that later).
As we told them about the process and our decision making over the last few months, I had sudden inspiration about how to put this news into context for the boys. They are all in advanced placement classes at school, as well as the gifted and talented education programs, and I told them that their teachers put them in those classes because their brains needed to be challenged. If they were in the lower level classes, they would be bored and frustrated. I told them that Dad was the same way, and his brain needed to be challenged, and his current job couldn’t do that for him in the longterm. But this new job would. With this explanation, it clicked for each of the boys. Of course there were still tears, but they understood that Dad’s needs were just as important as their needs, and our family could make sacrifices to make sure everyone in the family was happy and fulfilled. It was actually a pretty amazing moment that I hope to remember forever.
Shockingly, the boys took the news so well, and after one long conversation about it, we played as a family for the rest of the week, continuing to bring it up and discuss and make it part of our normal conversation as we adjusted to this news.
I had texted my family before we told the kids and asked them to say a little prayer for us. After we told the kids, I texted everyone back and told them how it went, and mentioned that B had felt that this was coming. My mom responded, “look at him, receiving personal revelation!” As I read her text, I had an “aha” moment. B had set a goal this year as part of our church’s youth program to be able to receive personal revelation! I had heard him pray about this goal many times since he set the goal in January, and it hit me like a ton of bricks to realize that my sweet 12 year old boy had received an answer to a direct prayer, and also received his own personal revelation from God. What a gift!
As we sat around the fire at the cabin on Sunday night, the younger boys ran off to play in the yard but B stayed with Philip and me as the fire died down. I decided this was a great time to bring up this connection that my mom had helped me make. As we talked, I asked him if he realized he had received personal revelation. He looked at me with big eyes and said, “no I didn’t even realize that!” I said, you also received a direct answer to your prayers!
It was one of those moments where we felt God’s presence so strongly, and I could tell that he realized God knew him and was watching out for him. It was a life changing moment for both of us. I felt so grateful.
Back at home
Phew, are you still reading? This is getting long winded.
Over the last month since spring break, everything has moved at lightning speed, with everything falling into place perfectly. It just continues to confirm to me that we’re doing the right thing.
Philip went back out to St. Louis for work and met with a realtor there, went through a few houses (after looking through hundreds online) and found us an amazing house! I’ll share more about it soon, but we have a house!
And if you’re stressed about the fact that we bought it without me seeing it, don’t worry…Philip has literally bought all our houses without me seeing them. He’s trustworthy.
We planned a trip out over Easter weekend since the boys had Good Friday off of school, so two days after buying the house, we flew out there as a family to introduce the boys to St. Louis. They loved it. We got to visit the new house, we attended an Easter egg hunt with our new church congregation (where everyone was so kind and inviting), we went up the arch and visited some other fun places in the city, and then on Sunday we attended our new congregation where the entire very large youth group and primary group got up to sing (separately) so we were able to get a really good feel for how many kids and youth there are in our congregation. We are SO grateful there are so many youth and kids, so it will be immediate friends and community for the kids. Miracle after miracle for our family.
The following week, we came home from our trip, listed our house here for sale, and sold it within four days for over asking price. Truly we could not be more blessed.
I have felt overwhelmed by all the changes and demands and decisions that have come our way over the last four months, but truly I feel so peaceful and excited about this move.
I’m devastated to leave our friends and neighbors and home here in Dallas, but I know we’re going where we need to go, and that there are good things in store for us there.
The next few months will be crazy around here with the end of school, a few planned trips, and then moving in June. Thankfully the company gives us a relocation package, which includes packers and movers (we’ve done this twice already and it’s a game changer), so hopefully things will go fairly smoothly on that front.
However, we can’t get the keys to our new house until August 1st, unfortunately, so we will be living in temporary housing for the summer in St. Louis and making it work, whatever that looks like! I guess get ready for some capsule wardrobe content, because I’ll be living out of a suitcase for 8 weeks.
I’ll still be blogging and styling and creating content, but you’ll be seeing a few new spaces and I’ll be getting a little extra creative over the next few months as we live in limbo.
Thank you, thank you for your support over all these years…lots of good things are ahead!