tee: forever 21 (shop) // skirt: made by my mom // heels: payless (shop) // necklace: c/o wild about jewelry
Last weekend I attended a retreat up near Pasadena called The Power of Moms. I'd never heard of it before the invitation to go, and honestly I debated back and forth whether I should go, especially considering I wouldn't know a soul in attendance. Happily, they let me bring a friend, so I asked Christi (Philip's 2nd cousin who lives here in HB), and she was more than willing to tag along.
I won't bore you with details of the whole day (and trust me...there are a lot of details I could share since we were there from 9am til 7pm), but let me just tell you that the day was inspiring, refreshing, and completely motivating.
Basically the idea behind Power of Moms is to be a deliberate mother, raising good, hard-working, and happy children, all the while being a strong, fulfilled, and joyful mom. This retreat was an entire day dedicated to teaching us how to do just that.
Here are a few of my favorite notes from the day, and things I'm now working to incorporate into our home:
- "Mom Is A Person." April started making her children repeat this phrase after years of putting up with eating cold food because her kids needed something the moment she sat down to eat, or the kids banging on the door while she was trying to take a shower, etc. Now she reminds them, "mom is a person too" and that her needs are a priority as well. We're working on this...
- Warrior Mothers. Sarah, of Having a Hull Lot of Fun, shared a beautiful story about her daughter who was born with Spina Bifida, and how she became a "warrior mother," putting her armor on the moment the doctor's recommended terminating the pregnancy. She spoke of being a protector and an advocate for your children. She is amazing, and this rang so true for me.
- Strengthening Your Spirit. Don't rely on food, or social networks to bring you happiness, and don't let them consume you so that they block your connections with God.
- 2 Minute Rule. The first half of the day was dedicated to learning about April's Mind Organization program. One of her tricks in this program is "if it can be done in 2 minutes or less, just do it." I've been doing that this week and it's helping me feel SO much less overwhelmed!
- 3 Systems of any Organization: CULTURE, LEGAL SYSTEM, ECONOMY
- Culture: "Be deliberate about motherhood and about your family culture." What things define us as a family? Make an effort to create that special culture.
- Legal System: Involve your children in choosing a consequence for their actions. Speak respectfully to your children, just as you expect them to be respectful to you. Ask for a do-over if they speak unkindly -- "let's try that again." this is working beautifully for Peanut...
- Economy: Teach your children about money. Make them responsible for some of their purchases and gain an understanding of how much things really cost.
After this awesome day, I came home and came up with four characteristics that I feel describe the person I am and am striving to be:
Discipline, Order, Strength, Love
Time to instill these characteristics and be the most deliberate and joyful mom I can be.
If you want to learn more about The Power of Moms, go here. There are retreats around the country (and the world!) on a regular basis, so check to see when they might be coming to your area. And if you're in Southern California, April (the founder) and her husband are hosting a couple's retreat this weekend in Tustin. They've done these in the past and everyone had amazing things to say about them. Check out the information here!
this is not a sponsored post. Power of Mom's provided the tickets for the retreat, but all opinions are my own.