A Lesson in Parenting

cardigan: target (shop)
striped top: lucky brand via sam’s club
belt: target
jeans: gap
sandals: target
 About a month ago, we entered the “two year old” phase with Peanut — strong opinions, many, many tantrums, refusal to eat food (and subsequent throwing of food at every meal), etc. After a rough week and a half or so, I suddenly realized that the only thing that was keeping us going from day to day was bribery…mostly in the form of treats. 
This is certainly not the way I want to be raising my child — with sugary rewards for any good behavior. So following the good example of my friend, Jacque (check out her cute shop, by the way!), we made a sticker chart. We broke it down into several categories, and he got a sticker at the end of the day if he had fulfilled that category with good behavior. At the end of the first week, if he had done really well, he got a new toy. 
A few stickers were missed throughout the week, but he did well enough that we rewarded him with a small new toy. But when week two rolled around, we told him he had to get ALL his stickers to get a new toy, so he was motivated! Although he came very close to missing a few times, he eventually made it to the end of the week with a full sticker chart. 
So yesterday we headed to the toy store, full sticker chart in hand. After much deliberation, he finally decided on a shiny yellow tractor. He handed his chart to the cashier (some young college girl who obviously didn’t understand the gravity of this situation, and awkwardly said, “uh, good job, buddy..”), and the tractor was his.
one very proud little boy
The moral of the story is this: stickers and tractors solve all your problems.
  • love your outfit!

  • Few Things;
    1. Love your outfit…stripes and solids with some animal print is lovely!
    2. I don't have kids (yet) but sticker charts work at schools and it certainly can work at home. I like how you "shape" his behavior w/ little toys. Funny, I went to a Parenting Management Training for work last week..and this is exactly what they discussed at the workshop. Good luck w/the sticker chart but judging from the last picture…it definitely is going well so far. GO yellow tractor!!
    Christine
    delachic

  • The stripes paired with leopard is too cute! Seems like the sticker chart is working to combat those terrible 2s πŸ™‚

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

  • Cute outfit! Don't you just love target? I get so many cute clothes from there!!

    Mallory @Faith. Fashion. Beauty. blog {Check it out!}

  • I totally did this with my kids too and it WORKS! They got the options of different prizes for the amounts of Monopoly money that they got in their ziploc bags–from picking the movie on movie night to going out to Chuckie Cheese to a new toy. It totally works and I am so proud of you! Keep it up!

    I love the bit of leopard with your navy stripes! Too cute!

  • That's genius! What a cute kid, he looks so proud haha

  • What a good idea! I have 4 boys and am always on the lookout for new ideas. Love this outfit, I am a new follower!
    Creamy

  • Oh that grin! Pure bliss on his face right there πŸ™‚

  • Aw – he is too cute! And the sticker chart is such a cute idea. Love your pattern mixing – so fun πŸ™‚

    Annie
    The Other Side of Gray

  • Are you kidding me? A week without a tantrum? How is that even possible?! And I am so not above bribing my child. And I said I never would…

    P.S. Those wide leg jeans look awesome on you, girl!

    Amy Day to Day

  • This is one of my favorite outfits of yours. Very cute.

    Also, Ella is definitely headed into that territory. Lucky Mom next week πŸ™‚

  • i have that cardigan from target, and it is possibly my favorite cardigan of all time. πŸ™‚ you look cute in it!

    [and im writing all these parenting breakthroughs down, for when i have to deal with them in the future. :)]

  • Haha, what a great moral!! That last picture is so darling. What a handsome little man!

  • You look adorable. The animal print belt over the cardigan is really cute.
    Also I love your parenting story. I remember we had a similar system to help me with my spelling tests when I was little. It was so exciting that's pretty much the only thing I remember about 1st grade.

  • Oh boy is Addie thick into the same behavior. It's rough! And because she doesn't talk much sometimes it seems like there's no way to reason with her. My days sometimes feel very long!

    But man Peanut is cute. πŸ™‚

  • Out of curiosity, how old is your little boy? I have an 18 month old and I am wondering how soon I will have to be implementing this idea! πŸ™‚

  • Ahhhh I love how he handed the cashier his sticker chart hahaha. I much prefer earning stickers rather than getting points docked from you or something like that. And yay for yellow tractors haha.

  • You look wonderful! Those jeans fit you so perfectly and I love the colour of that cardigan.

  • Love your striped tee. Bribery and reverse bribery: If he throws a bad temper tantrum (or just doesn't mind) take away a favorite toy. Set it where he can see it but can't get to it. When he has been good for the time you specify (using stickers) he can have his toy back. This will save you lots of money. LOL

  • Blue is definitely your color! And the sticker chart is wonderful for young kiddos! As he gets older, you can use the same concept to create a chore chart. πŸ™‚

  • Love it! Also, you should do some hair tutorial posts – i love the different ways your curl your hair, but have no idea how to do it!

  • Super cute look! Love the addition of the leopard belt! Too fun! The sticker idea is super cool and practical! Glad it's working out!

    xx
    Giovanna
    http://www.oliveandanarrow.com