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In the last few months I’ve seen many blog posts and had several conversations with friends about the negatives of fashion blogs and pinterest. About how lots of women find themselves reading fashion blogs or perusing pinterest and coveting the lives, clothing, style, hair, etc. of other women, and then thinking negatively about their own lives.
For me, that’s not what blogging or Pinterest should be about, at all.
I read a lot of fashion blogs, and I’m a big pinterest lover, but instead of browsing and wishing I had a whole new closet or better hair, I make these blogs and my pins work for me. I’m not saying that I’ve never coveted someone else’s things, but in the last few months I’ve tried to make some attitude changes and some social networking changes and it’s helped a lot. For example, my “Dressing Myself” board, which I’ve mentioned before, started out as a board of outfits and clothing that I wanted. But lately I’ve forced it to morph into a board of pieces I already own and wouldn’t have thought to put together. I read those fashion blogs and pin outfits from them that I could actually put together, or imitate in some way. Suddenly it’s a helpful board instead of a jealousy board.
I’ve made a list of my few “unwritten rules” about fashion blogs and pinterest, and if you find yourself in the aforementioned situation, maybe these will work for you too.
1. I never pin something in my “dressing myself” board that doesn’t have at least one element of the outfit that I already own (whether it’s a nearly identical piece or a piece that’s similar in some way — color, shape, pattern)
2. I use the captions on my pins to remember the elements of the outfit that I like or want to imitate.
3. I don’t copy every outfit I pin exactly — I copy color palettes, or patterns mixed, or belting methods, or interesting clothing combinations, and that helps me get beyond the obvious outfits in my closet.
4. If you really, really want a clothing
item, pin it to a separate “clothes to purchase” board. Then when you
get some birthday money, go back to the board and buy something from
that list. Having it sit there for a few weeks (or months) might make
you re-evaluate your passionate love for it. If you still love it as
much as the day it was pinned, it’s obviously a worthwhile purchase. And then that special birthday money won’t go to waste on a item that you don’t actually need or love that much. (discalimer: I don’t have a board like this — I got the idea from Whoorl and I think it’s brilliant. In fact, I might start a board like that).
5. I only subscribe to fashion blogs that have styles that I like, that are similar to my own, or have a style that I aspire to. (following blogs about women gallavanting around the world to black tie parties and balls in Jimmy Choo’s and Harry Winston jewelry would not really coincide with my stay at home mom style, and would probably just make me covet their exciting lifestyles)
6. I read blogs to feel inspired, motivated, uplifted, and happy. If a blog is making me feel unhappy about my life, or depressed about my wardrobe, I unsubscribe.
7. As hard as it is, I try to remember that even the most gorgeous and stylish bloggers out there have struggles. Just because they don’t blog about it doesn’t mean they don’t have bad days, or family problems, or acne (ok, maybe that last one is just me).
It’s so easy as women to get down on ourselves and feel inadequate or unattractive compared to other women. If your pins or the blogs you follow are making you feel that way, get them out of your life! Blogging is such a great way for people to express themselves, whether it be through writing, photography, cooking, design, or fashion. But if a certain blog is giving you negative feelings, for any reason at all, then that blog is not for you. Walk away and watch how much more you’ll appreciate your own life.
Let’s try to get back to the purpose of blogging and appreciate the amazing talent of others and use it for inspiration and motivation rather than for negative thoughts and coveting.
What do you say?